Welcome to Episode #7 of my weekly video blog Work You Love!
Today, I’m addressing Evelyn’s question about how to handle an unsupportive spouse who resists your making the changes you long to in your career.
“I want career coaching now, however my husband is not a supporter. I’m at a point where I want to start and own my own business but he is very risk averse and doesn’t want to intentionally gamble with the idea.
I am in a rut, I’m exhausted and I want to get re-energized and once again know that the work I do matters or offers me satisfaction. I am a middle manager in my career but also a wife, mother, community leader, active church member who feels like her job is sucking the life out of her. My husband thinks because of the uncertainty of times I should be happy I have a job that pays 6 figures, and I appreciate that, but I know that if I don’t figure out my career, reinvent myself or do something I’m going to burn out completely and my career reputation will be ruined.
Do you have any pointers that would help me convince my husband to believe you could help me improve my career outlook and pull me back from the edge of career suicide. He thinks it’s a waste of our hard earned money for no real gain.”
Here’s my take:
The key messages from today’s post are:
1) Don’t try to “convince” your spouse. Just communicate powerfully, authoritatively, and masterfully that you can’t continue the way you are. Share in a compelling way that it’s time to make some form of positive change, and you’d like his/her support to do it. But remember – you don’t need permission to take control of your life.
2) Figure out how important this career shift is to you now. If it’s critical, prioritize it highly, and do what it takes to create the changes you long for.
3) Remember – you don’t have to risk everything to bring about the shifts you need to be happier in your career.
Here’s a tweetable for you:
CLICK TO TWEET: Become the master of your own ship. Don’t let others dictate what you need, and what you can have. @kathycaprino #WorkYouLove
It’s up to you – no one can do this for you.
Does your spouse support you in making the changes you desire in life and work? How do you handle it? Share your candid thoughts below.
Thank you for watching Work You Love, and many happy breakthroughs. See you next week!
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